When you were a kid, nobody told you how hard married life could sometimes be. Sure, you saw adult married couples arguing now and then, but the seriousness of the issues they faced eluded you as kid.
Now that you have experienced being married for yourself, you probably have a whole new appreciation for what it takes to hold a marriage together. It takes devotion, time, attention, fidelity, fun, and trust. When one or more of these crucial elements of a happy marriage falls away, problems are sure to follow.
When problems in a marriage get serious enough, sometimes one of the spouses believes they have had enough and decides to leave. They may move out of the house without saying a word. Or, they may ask for a separation or even a divorce. For the spouse who remains behind, this can be a confusing and painful time. They are often left wondering: what exactly happened here?
If you are saying, “My wife moved out – can I get her back?”, here are 5 ways to tell if getting her back is a realistic possibility:
1. She loved you more than you loved her:
Let’s face it: in most marriages, one person usually loves and needs the other person more. The difference in mutual love is usually minuscule, but it’s there. In your case, if your wife loved you more than you loved her, your chances for getting her back are a bit stronger than otherwise.
2. Your wife is not yet involved in another serious romantic relationship:
When your wife left, did she immediately start dating and quickly become involved with another man? Or, is she mainly spending her time at work, around the house, or engaged in other activities outside the home? If she is not yet involved in a serious relationship, count this as a sign in your favor.
3. She still reaches out to you once in a while:
Does your wife still call, text or e-mail you now and then? If she does, even if she seems angry or distant, it is a sign that at some level she wants to maintain a connection with you.
4. Your wife still lives in the same general area you lived in when you were married:
When your wife walked out, did she pick up and move somewhere else – such as to another city? If she still lives more or less nearby to where the two of you lived when you were together, there is a better chance of her wanting and being able to reunite with her.
5. You have not done anything to the relationship that is irreparable:
Back when the two of you were still together, did you cheat or otherwise act in such a dishonest way that it will be difficult for her to ever trust you again? If not, chalk one up in favor of being able to get back together again.
Consider these 5 signs that your wife may or may not be willing to have you back again. Then, if you feel like there is still hope for your marriage, it is time to take action: get help in putting together a plan to rekindle the love and reunite the two of you in a happy marriage again.